Here’s a quick scenario – that nude photo you took in private for private purposes ends up on the internet and the whole country is discussing it. Your jealous ex is getting their way. After publicising the visuals, everyone is calling you names because they are not impressed with your ability to be naked sometimes, especially as a woman. How do you deal? And more importantly, how do you bounce back? For Pulane Lenkoe, you hold your head up high and you move on. Of course it’s a scary thought, but once the pics are out there, they are out there. What else can you do, roll over and die?
That might seem extreme, but the number of people who are taking their own lives because they can’t deal with the traumatic aftermath of having one’s nude making the rounds is concerning. One such famous case in recent memory is that of Jessica Logan, who hanged herself in her bedroom after her boyfriend leaked the private photo. For weeks building up to the tragic suicide, the 18 year old had been the subject of ridicule at her high school and suffered a great deal of harassment from her schoolmates.
Don’t be mistaken, the aftermath of this sort of thing is very real.
But, it’s been a rough journey for the 32 year law student. “I’m literally shaking right now”, she told Times LIVE at the time. She also added that she that she felt people were looking at her as if she was a “whore”, and that she had leaked the pic deliberately to get attention. Yeah because that’s what people do to get a bit of attention…
It should not be surprising then that one of the biggest fears shared by mortals living in the age of digital media is that of one’s nude photos being leaked onto the internet, where they shall live forever for pervs to feast on and for unknown enemies to circulate inside the comfort of their private spaces. As if it’s not bad enough that we are already terrified by the somewhat lingering prospect of being thrown in a situation where others can see us naked.
Admittedly, we might be just about so done with the question of whether or not taking snaps celebrating one’s physique in all its birthday suit glory is a smart move to begin with. The bottom line is, we do it. We just do. So when naked pictures of Pulane Lenkoe hit the internet late last year went viral on social media, all the decent segment of the population could think of was – how will she even be able to look at people down the road?
We asked ourselves the tough questions that haunt us whenever the idea of our naked visuals suffering the odd leak; how does one bounce back from that sort of thing? Can you be taken seriously as a professional when your genitals are out there for all to see? And that’s not even thinking about the glares when you walk down the road. That you have a degree but you also have a tendency to be naked. That your family has raised someone who sometimes gets naked and actually has genitals is a thought that seems to confound a lot of people.
As such if anything, Pulane’s re emergence to the public eye with her confident appearance on the Dlala Ka Yona music video can be read as one of the most courageous moves we have seen in recent times. It’s inspiring in many ways, the most valuable being the message of never giving in to harsh judgement. There, she reclaims her body and seems unafraid to do as she pleases with it, a year after the smearing campaign happened.
Nomzamo Mbatha Inspiring More Women’s Stories with PUMA
This young generation of driven and bold South Africans is really something else. Nomzamo Mbatha – the trailblazing actress and activist who covered Cosmopolitan Magazine’s Activism issue – is really something else.
It’s now just days after that awe-inspiring interview with Pearl Modiadie on Zaziwa, where she laid bare scars from her past, and we are still here keeping an eye on her #DoYou video anthem, on which she partnered with PUMA.
Launched on this past National Women’s Day, the clip features three young South African women whose personal messages of perseverance and self-empowerment resonate with the celebrity.
Inspired by their stories, Nomzamo invited Chumani Mtshixa, Thembakazi Silevana and Yonela Mabi to spend the day with her on the set of the PUMA South Africa’s seasonal Do You photoshoot in Johannesburg.
“Nomzamo not only inspires me but she gives me permission to ‘do me’; to do anything that my heart and mind desires,” says Chumani Mtshixa, a Politics and Social science student from Cape Town. “The whole day was amazing. I thought it was just a dream!”
Thembakazi Silevana, a production assistant from Johannesburg, says: “Nomzamo has been an inspiration in my life as she is the epitome of hard work and resilience. The words of encouragement she gave us will forever be in my heart.”
“Nomzamo inspires me to do me the best way I know how,” says final year BA student Yonela Mabi from Port Elizabeth. “She is breaking the so called ‘glass ceiling’ that women are said to be limited by. She’s bold, she is a powerhouse and she gets things done.”
“I was inspired by these women’s fearlessness and deep authenticity in relaying their stories. One of our common threads as human beings is our ability to overcome, and the women I chose displayed that trait incredibly,” says Nomzamo.
“Every young woman deserves to have someone on her side, who is going to believe in her and blow the wind beneath her wings just a little harder. I am grateful to be in a position where I can provide them with a platform to share their incredible stories.”
“Do You” has been a vehicle of female empowerment for the past two 2 years and Nomzamo joined other PUMA ambassadors including professional basketball player, Skylar Diggins-Smith and Lauren Lovette, New York City Ballet principal dancer and choreographer, in announcing their #DoYou Passion Projects earlier this year.
5 Affirming Life & Career Lessons From Khanyi During Her Talk With Anele
How does she do it!? Khanyi Dhlomo recently sat down with Anele Mdoda to discuss life, business and spirituality. Here are some 5 really punchy life and career lessons we will keep forever from that inspiring conversation.
Ndalo Media founder and CEO Khanyi Dhlomo is one of the most inspirational women on the planet.
An overachiever in her professional career and business, Khanyi was an SABC prime time news anchor at just 20 years old, before becoming a True Love Magazine Editor at the tender age 22.
Some folks at QuenchSA were getting down to Pour It Up at that age.
Now one of the continent’s most successful businesswomen, Khanyi Dhlomo joined Anele Mdoda on Real Talk With Anele to discuss business, life and career.
Here’s a look at 5 life lessons we got that from that incredibly affirming conversation:
‘You don’t have to know the how, but you need to know the what.’
Adding, “the universe will move everything around you to create the how.” Often times, we get caught up in figuring out the specifics on how exactly are we to make things happen. Unfortunately, sometimes there is little evidence to support the realistic feasibility of the visions we have for ourselves. That, amongst many other odds we see belying possibility, sometimes digs up a bottomless pit of self doubt.
For Khanyi, moving with the flow of your life and being mindful of where it is you want to be is a good place to be. Things will fall in place!
‘Sometimes your dreams don’t come to you packaged the way you expect.’
While Khanyi knew since she was a young girl that she had intentions of one day working in the magazine industry, a world that intrigued and excited her so much even from early on, she could have never known some of the plot twists that placed her in a position to swallow her pride in the beginning, and be a ‘skivvy’, before she earned becoming True Love magazine’s youngest Editor at just 22 years old.
Khanyi’s first step into print industry came clad as a fashion assistant job with duties that included serving coffee to everyone and doing all the running around. Far from the glamourous world most sometimes think magazines are, she was taken aback by this.
However, as she would later learn, it turned out to be the preparation she needed to be able to step up to the next level of her career!
“It was the best preparation for owning the media company that I own now.”
“Our lives are all about the next level.”
And perhaps because of such experiences, Khanyi has learned that nothing in life is a waste, good or bad. She affirms that everything in life is meant to happen so that we may grow and move towards the direction of our purpose. Every level in our lives brings with it everything we need to go through to be able to move to the next level.
There is no next level without this level. So don’t be hard on yourself. Wherever you want to be, will unfold from where you are in the Now moment.
‘Come from a place of love.’
She says that at our core, we are all perfect beings. Mistakes may be made at the physical level, but the belief in the essential goodness of others is consistently actioned through kind acts of compassion in human interactions and how she approaches life.
‘Solve a particular need.’
Replying to a viewer’s question on what life lesson she has learned so far in business, Dhlomo urges entrepreneurs to understand what problem they are solving. Wanting independence is not enough to want to pursue and be able to stay in business. You want to be able to positively impact lives, because that “aligns you with the creative energy that governs everything that we are.”
In addition to being passionate, development, progress and moving things forward should be central to any approach to business.
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South Africa’s 5 Most Inspiring Celebrities – Youth Edition 2017!
From a TV personality with more than 5 television shows airing at the same time, to a self made digital media mogul, here’s 5 young SA celebs who are serving life inspo goals right now
June marks Youth Month in South Africa, as we reflect on the brave acts of the 1976 youth who went out on the 16th of June that year to protest against unfair laws that enforced Afrikaans as compulsory in black township schools nationally.
500 youths were killed on that day.
But while the national holiday is a time we should all take to remember their brave acts against an evil system, it’s also an opportunity to shine a light on South African youth who are smashing down doors and inspiring young people to rise to the best expression of themselves.
And as we do every year, let’s take a look at young people making big and bold moves in South African showbiz.
He’s only 33 years old, but Trevor Noah has already lived out his wildest dreams. The comedian and The Daily Show host recently beat out the likes of Ellen DeGeneres and RuPaul to snatch the gong for Favourite TV Host at the 2017 MTV Movie & TV Awards. Then there’s the penthouse in Manhattan, the TIME cover… let’s not drag this on too much – you already know the deal with Trevz and history making ways…
DJ BLACK COFFEE
DJ Black features on Drake’s latest mixtape More Life. He also has, amongst other collaborative efforts we’ve seen emerge with international acts, worked with the likes of Alicia Keys.
He has a residency in Ibiza, Spain, this coming summer. Black Coffee will be jetting off to Ibiza to start rocking out Saturdays at Hï Ibiza as part of his first ever residency, from June 30th until September 30th. Read more of that HERE
Undoubtedly the highest paid DJ in the continent, DJ Black Coffee spends a lot of time playing for crowds around the world, and introducing them to the African house music sound.
DJ Sbu has accumulated so many titles throughout his massively successful career it’s not easy to pin him down to just one thing. Yet the 38 year old ‘Billionaire Under Construction’ , as his book is titled, proves with every unpredictable move that he knows no limits for himself.
Real name Sbusiso Leope, the multi skilled big dreamer has done everything from Radio to TV presenting and churning out multi platinum albums.
And just when many thought he’d reached the pinnacle of his success, the Thembisa bred entrepreneur moved on to retail business – starting his own energy beverage business – MoFaya. Just before releasing his book, Sbu announced that he will be launching his very own online radio station.
Tbo Touch smashed many hearts when he announced his departure from Metro FM mid 2016, despite being paid over R2 million for his radio presenting duties at the controversial SABC radio station. Back then, most were not aware that Touch had been getting ready for the launch of his own online radio station Touch HD (formerly known as ‘Touch Central’)
Following a reported R28 million upgrade of the successful radio station, Touch roped in some of the biggest names in SA radio, including former Metro FM colleague Glen Lewis, who left the station after 22 years to join Touch HD.
Cassper Nyovest’s latest album, Thuto, went Gold within a day, and then hit platinum in less than a month after being released. Tito Mboweni, the album’s lead single, tallied a million views in less than two weeks on YouTube, becoming the fastest South African music video to reach a million views over there.
Thuto also hit a 1 million streams on iTunes in a week. All of that came just days after announcing brand ambassadorship duties with Ciroc, which happened weeks after the Family Tree record label founder launched his merchandise store in Newtown, Johannesburg.
Most recently, the 26 year old rapper’s 2016 history making Fill Up The Dome Concert was availed for premium streaming on NetFlix.
There’s a lot happening in his career, each accomplishment more impressive than the previous. His highly anticipated concert at FNB Stadium, the biggest arena in Africa, will likely top everything else on his 2017 To-Do’s.
Ever slay ready Queen B branded 2017 ‘The Year of the Queen’, and no wonder!
The media personality, fashion icon, face of Revlon and cognac brand Courvoisier, businesswoman – with her own lingerie line at SA retailer Woolworths, has two TV show premiering on two different channels this July.
Being Bonang, a reality show chronicling the busy B’s life debuts on VUZU AMP (co-produced by her production company Bonang Matheba Entertainment) around the same time that the KFC Taste Kitchen, a cooking show she will be hosting on Mzansi Magic, will both appear on the telly at the same time.
The two shows are mere additions to Bonang’s ongoing television gigs as she is currently a presenter on Top Billing and Afternoon Express (SABC 3). All red carpets that matter also keep her trotting around for coverage, thanks to her red carpet shows on E! Entertainment.
Just on TV alone, she reigns supreme.