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The Devastating Effect of the Mirror: How the mirror is a figment of our Ideal-self

The mirror possesses an ability to show exactly what an individual would like to see in themselves. This perception is commonly irreconcilable with reality. Thus giving rise to millions of haters. Read more.



In an age where confidence is everything, mirrors have assumed an exponential role in people’s lives. It is not to discredit other conceptions that explain peoples’ assumed self-worth and self-assurance; however the mirror is an indiscriminate property that is quite subjective and powerful. It is truly testament to the phrase beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. The mirror disguises asymmetries, highlights beauty and exposes how proud one can be. The mirror’s role in today’s society is one of a confidence booster. It has given rise to the existence of imaginary detractors, famously signified by the term ‘hater’.

Granted, an individual’s personal appearance ought not to be used as a tool for defamation or ostracism purposes. However in reality, one that consist of rational individuals who seek validation on account of others’ misery or downfall, peoples imperfections are subjected to heavy scrutiny. Queen B can attest!!!

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Beyoncé learnt the hard way. Her laugh lines and blemishes were exposed as photos from a 2013 L’Oreal shoot were leaked. Haters gon’ hate!

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Nevertheless one can see the extent to which perfection is dangled to the public. The final product is miles apart from reality. Since the mirror is an object without the ability to provide feedback, whether in the form of constructive criticism or objective counsel, a person’s appearance is only discerned by a biased perception. Thus, any attempt to offer critique of a certain selection of clothing may be met with unwarranted resentment and classified as an act of ‘hating’.

In a perfect world, one would champion the belief of self-acceptance grounded upon an internal locus of control where the society’s opinion about an individual’s appearance is given little to no interest. Conversely, the reality of the matter indicates that the society’s acceptance remains of chief importance to an individual’s self-worth. Indicative of this premise is how mimicry of fashion trends transcends once divisive labels such as age, weight and gender appropriateness. Thus self-confidence has been attached to the way one sees themselves in the mirror and a total disregard of what others may feel about one’s appearance. What is questionable about this approach is that comments made about one’s appearance tend to be filtered only if they are a scathing indictment. Acceptance and adulation of the way one looks on the other hand is not subjected to similar disregard.

As the mirror performs its role of reflection of ones perception about oneself, the rest of the society are left to occupy the role of hater. What may be perceived as a defence mechanism is an attitude adopted from western urban culture where one has no longer looks at perceived ill-will as a bad thing. On the contrary, one nowadays judges the success or failure of their endeavour according to the amount of ill will they generate from the public. The adoption of the phrase ‘bad publicity is good publicity’ to the daily lives of ordinary people is successfully operational. Did someone say DJ Sbu???

This in no way suppresses the very real existence of people sworn to make others feel disenfranchised by virtue of their blemishes, however it is to say that not every comment about one’s appearance is meant to be used as a weapon to bring them down. Consequently, the fault lies with the mirror. This indiscriminate object whose magic power is to stroke the ego allows for greater emphasis to be placed on appearances and therefore offer an avenue for ones self-confidence to either be built or crushed. This result is unavoidable irrespective of whether it is self-imposed or not. In this way it is advisable that one resists the temptation of believing the hype the mirror creates, subscribe to a more internal locus of control and accept constructive criticism. Not everyone is your HATER!

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Black Panther: Wakanda Forever to land on Disney+ in February

Welcome to Wakanda!




Black Panther Wakanda Forever

Fans of the Marvel Cinematic Universe are in for a treat. Disney+ has announced that 1 February marks the arrival of Marvel Studios’ “Black Panther: Wakanda Forever.” The blockbuster will be joining 16 other on the streaming platform.


Queen Ramonda (Angela Bassett), Shuri (Letitia Wright), M’Baku (Winston Duke), Okoye (Danai Gurira) and the Dora Milaje (including Florence Kasumba) fight to protect their nation from intervening world powers in the wake of King T’Challa’s death.

As the Wakandans strive to embrace their next chapter, the heroes must band together with the help of War Dog Nakia (Lupita Nyong’o) and Everett Ross (Martin Freeman) and forge a new path for the kingdom of Wakanda. Introducing Tenoch Huerta Mejía as Namor, ruler of a hidden undersea nation, the film also stars Dominique Thorne, Michaela Coel, Mabel Cadena and Alex Livinalli.

“Black Panther: Wakanda Forever,” directed by Ryan Coogler and produced by Kevin Feige and Nate Moore, is now playing in theaters. 

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The Shocking Fallout of Black Motion

Tensions have reportedly escalated.




They are one of South Africa’s most revered music duos.

Their discography packs both blockbuster club bangers and lush delights for lovers of House with a transcendental African sonic flair. And the explosive fallout of Black Motion, which has been splashed across the internet long before reaching the courts, has shocked many.

Loved for their electrifying live performances and awe-inspiring chemistry, Mörda and Smol have always seemed like musical soulmates. But that relationship seems to have reached a bitter end.

In 2022, rumours of their reported split triggered a frenzy on the internet. Following the uproar, the group’s members Bongani Mohosana, who now goes as Mörda, and Smol (real name Roy Thabo Mabogwane), jointly calmed fears that they had fallen out.

It had been said the break would be temporary, as Mörda moved to focus on the release of his solo studio album.

Far from it, it now seems. The parties have escalated things to court.

According to reports, Black Motions have confirmed that they had pressed charges against Mörda for alleged housebreaking and theft.

A court order by the High Court in Gauteng posted on social media has ordered Morda to “restore possession of a recording studio apparatus” to the group by 13 January, at 5pm. 

Black Motion shared snaps of the alleged damage caused by Morda – a broken door and stolen equipment.


It looks like we won’t be getting a new Black Motion album with Mörda anytime soon.

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Reality Shows

Inside the Big Brother Titans Premiere!

South Africa and Nigeria unite under Biggie’s roof.




Sunday, 15 February 2023, marks the roaring arrival of BBTitans.


The highly anticipated social experiment brings under Biggie’s roof housemates from both South Africa and Nigeria. And for 72 days, we will be splashed with the finest in South African and Nigerian swag, banter, romance and all the trappings of a fun-filled, dramatic and – we’d hope – an entertaining show.

A first of its kind, the social experiment assembles the most colourful personalities from the two nations to outwit, outplay and outsmart each other in a bid to get their hands on a massive bag, life-changing bag!

In addition to a number of lofty prizes that will likely be on the line throughout the season, the winner of the show will also be walking away, a whopping grand prize of US $100 000 (over R1,7 million) is up for grabs for the one who trounces his Housemates to charm audiences across the continent.

That’s not all; the amount of social capital, celebrity and opportunities for lucrative brand deals after the show, all form part of the career-launching lift-off that comes with being on the popular franchise.

Both Big Brother Mzansi host Lawrence Maleka and Big Brother Naija’s Ebuka Obi-Uchendu will co-host this debut season.

Fans of Big Brother Mzansi and Big Brother Naija in the diaspora are not left out as Showmax will stream the show in the United Kingdom, New Zealand, and about 50 other countries.

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