If you are reading this you probably didn’t get a valentines gift and you are wondering why? Are you are that girl every year that finds herself waiting for that surprise gift that never shows up? Or have you just given up entirely on Valentine’s Day because your partner thinks it’s pointless and he always has to go to the “men’s conference” this week.
You try to avoid it, but deep down you want those random flowers sent your office accompanied by that cute creepy teddy bear, chocolates (even though you on a diet) and a note that reads: “Be ready by 8, I am taking you somewhere special. Love, your lover”.
And then you end the lovely night with some old school R&B music on that Bold & The Beautiful love making. Pretty much seems like the perfect cheesy date you’ve been dreaming of. Or maybe you not that fussy and all you are asking for is just flowers, or even a rose ‘nje’. But still ‘dololo!’
With all efforts you make, to remind him of the big day coming, by hinting via WhatsApp stories, still no gift? All you end up getting is a lame happy valentines text or better yet for those that are single NOTHING except for WhatsApp stories of other people being spoiled rotten while you stare at your screen at work. Which ends up ruining your entire mood and making you become the biggest advocate for anti valentines days.
So, now, how do we fix this?
Do we buy ourselves flowers and post them? Do we ship our boyfriends to boyfriending academy? You are probably waiting for 6 fire tips to getting those gifts but unfortunately I don’t have them, what anticlimax huh?! But I will help you enjoy this Valentine’s Day differently, with no expectations.
There are a few things you can do this Valentine’s to not feel so alone, like:
You can spice things up by taking you and your girls on a night out clubbing, karaoke night, singles party, speedy dating etc. what ever rocks your boat.
I would suggest you get all your friends that didn’t get a gift to come over to your place with an item from their closet that doesn’t fit or they don’t want and exchange simultaneously. You would be surprised what treasure you would find in someone else’s trash and you could bond over some wine too.
‘WE GOT NO GIFTS’ DINNER
Call anyone you know for a cosy dinner laughing at your silly Valentines expectations
Buy yourself those guilty pleasures treats just this once because you deserve it. That’s your love language moes.
Call your friends over for game night, it gets your mind of things.
Be creative have fun with it, make it a day to look forward to every year. Take this as an opportunity to remind those you love, how much you love them. This Valentine’s Day amplify your love. Always remember love exists within yourself, others just amplify it. Go on and express your love language.